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Peaceful Love - Truth or Fantasy?
I've modified this article on the basis of feedback I got today.
I'd like to say, that in nature, peaceful love does not exist on its own. All nature is directed toward the future - everything evolves toward some destiny and it evolves at the border of chaos and order. In other words, peace and war.
In our relationships, if we choose to live in harmony with nature, the focus goes beyond the relationship. Rather than classic self obsessive focus on peace and tranquillity, a relationship that exists in harmony with nature exists for the purpose of serving others. From this commitment comes a blend of chaos and order, peace and war, challenge and support.
There are a million different types of relationships. People of different ages, financial means, religious inclination and personal obsession choose their relationships to best fit their needs. There is no right relationship. A passive relationship is great for someone who is tired or burned out from life. A stimulating one is great for someone who spends their life in a library, silent and calm. And, there's the strong arm of one or both partners that can crush the will of the other and enjoy the consequent lack of challenge.
To evolve in anything we must see balance in it. Peace blocks evolution. War blocks evolution. Growth comes from the Yin and Yang of both support and challenge. People, like nations have periods of abundance, and if they become complacent and do not remain thankful or humble, they attract calamities and disasters to humble them. This is nature in the cycle of birth life and death.
When I speak of relationship I speak about the relationship that is in itself in harmony with nature. Now this is unique because many relationships have children, friends, relatives, financed or some other aspect of the unit living out the chaos to balance the peace within that relationship. In nature we acknowledge that everything is connected, so often the chaos of a relationship is experienced outside the relationship. Suffice to say, in the whole of nature there's a balance of chaos and order, peace and war.
I modified this article because it received several comments from people who found it confronting in its implied one form fits all argument. Sorry about that.
I'd like to say, that in nature, peaceful love does not exist on its own. All nature is directed toward the future - everything evolves toward some destiny and it evolves at the border of chaos and order. In other words, peace and war.
In our relationships, if we choose to live in harmony with nature, the focus goes beyond the relationship. Rather than classic self obsessive focus on peace and tranquillity, a relationship that exists in harmony with nature exists for the purpose of serving others. From this commitment comes a blend of chaos and order, peace and war, challenge and support.
There are a million different types of relationships. People of different ages, financial means, religious inclination and personal obsession choose their relationships to best fit their needs. There is no right relationship. A passive relationship is great for someone who is tired or burned out from life. A stimulating one is great for someone who spends their life in a library, silent and calm. And, there's the strong arm of one or both partners that can crush the will of the other and enjoy the consequent lack of challenge.
To evolve in anything we must see balance in it. Peace blocks evolution. War blocks evolution. Growth comes from the Yin and Yang of both support and challenge. People, like nations have periods of abundance, and if they become complacent and do not remain thankful or humble, they attract calamities and disasters to humble them. This is nature in the cycle of birth life and death.
When I speak of relationship I speak about the relationship that is in itself in harmony with nature. Now this is unique because many relationships have children, friends, relatives, financed or some other aspect of the unit living out the chaos to balance the peace within that relationship. In nature we acknowledge that everything is connected, so often the chaos of a relationship is experienced outside the relationship. Suffice to say, in the whole of nature there's a balance of chaos and order, peace and war.
I modified this article because it received several comments from people who found it confronting in its implied one form fits all argument. Sorry about that.
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Permalink Reply by Kym Simons on -
Well...that sounds quite pessimistic to me! I definitely believe in the concept of "peaceful love" and I am NOT single. Obviously in any relationship there will be ups and downs but it is possible for couple to be peacefully happy the majority of the time. What determines our level of happiness and satisfaction are not circumstances and events in and of themselves but our reactions to them.
Are you suggesting that people not think positively? How could there possibly be any benefit in that?
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Permalink Reply by Chris Walker on -
Please forgive my writing if it comes across as one hat fits all people. I'm not suggesting that you or anyone else (I mean I wasn't intending) to imply that people can't live in peaceful love. THis is a great achievement for some people, and I am not the judge or jury on this. My 100% focus is living in harmony with natural law. This puts a whole different perspective on all these topics. My clients and students want something else, something different (don't read better into this) than a peaceful love.
Just to share, Nature intends no peace. It intends purpose. The purpose of my relationship is not to be a peaceful one, but to be a productive one in terms of my service to humanity. I help millions of kids, mostly indigenous, who'd rather hang themselves than face humiliation. So, I don't really give a moments attention to Peace. I help people grow out of trouble and into life.
The main cause of the suicidal tendancy of the youth I work with is boredom. Peace, neither inner or outer, solves this. Maybe one day, when they or I, are 90 years old, too old for fun, laughter, productive contribution or creative expression, the peace side of the balance in nature will come to us automatically. In the meantime, living in harmony with nature (which is all I can speak about with any degree of knowledge) means living in a balance between moments of challenge and moments of chaos. I am at peace with those two, neiether distracts me much.
Sorry again if my whole message came across that everyone should follow nature. Most don't because they have different outcomes, goals, objectives. Some people even want enlightenment so they can leave the earth and not come back. I can think of nothing worse.
With love and spirit and deepest respect for the diversity of choices people make in their lives.
Chris
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